The journey from there to here

Another blogger (let's call this blogger "Darcie Doo") asked about surrogate parenting. The question, for mothers, is if they would do it given the opportunity. "Darcie Doo" went on to say what a beautiful thing children are and what a blessing.

Now, considering less than 24 hours prior, this individual had suggested that we should not have had some of ours, and insinuated that we neglect them, I find this statement absolutely astonishing. Apparently children are beautiful only if you make $100k a year and drive fancy cars. Because God knows, second hand clothes and beans and rice are neglect (the part about the beans and rice was almost directly said by this individual).

Now, I happen to know this individual considers themselves a good, faithful Christian. If you don't believe me, just ask this individual. Now, I may be reading my Bible wrong, but somehow it seems to me there's a few verses on "love" in there. Love this person can muster for a cat, love they can muster for someone else's children (to the point of dictating to parents how said children should be raised), but love they are seemingly incapable of raising for someone who happens to have a large family.

But this individual is not alone in their hypocrisy. Oh no. In fact, in the VAST MAJORITY of "Christian" churches I have attended (most of them composed of people predominantly anti abortion), I have found only a small minority accepting of our large family. In fact, the only denominations I have found that have consistently been accepting of our large family have been the Catholics, the Mormons, and the Mennonites. Well, we're not Catholic, not Mormon, and the nearest Mennonite fellowship is over an hour away. So we're kinda outta the loop there.

I am tired of Christians who talk about how life is a blessing but don't support life. Who tell the ghetto crackwhore she can't abort her baby, but who don't support the idea of helping people like that to better their lives so they won't feel so damned desperate. Who look down on families with many children, and even accuse them of neglect because they don't live to the standard these Pharisees have deemed acceptable.

I love my children, each and every one of them. And if this individual cannot see where I was offended, then truly they DO have some sort of mental illness. They attacked my family, and when they did that, I feel I was totally within my boundaries to respond in kind. Truly, I hope this individual's teaching career is short. The children of America do not NEED judgmental hypocrites like that teaching their kids.

I would have kept it on this individual's thread, but I was invited off of it. So I'm going to respond somewhere.


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on Aug 20, 2007
LOL, my boys had New York Strip yesterday (about once a week).

I think I'm probably creating a monster.
on Aug 20, 2007
See, this individual has pretty much stressed that she doesn't think parents know anything and that she is best qualified to say what is best for the child.


Is she a mother by any chance? I mean if she isn't it's pretty easy for someone to say they know better when they don't have to take these children home with them and clean their butts, cook them dinner, clean up after them or make them clean up after themselves, wash their clothes and have to share the TV and computer with them. If she is a mother, however, I am starting to wonder how Child Services have not taken the child away. I mean, not only does she think she knows better, she takes medication for these "I-know-better" symptoms. If she can't determine (if she is a mother I mean) her child is better off away from her, I don't think she should have the child, if she is a mother.
on Aug 20, 2007
Is she a mother by any chance?


Nope, she isn't. Her degree automatically makes her a better parent than the rest of us.
on Aug 20, 2007
Yay for degrees! Useless pieces of paper showing that we BSed our way through college. Hurray for the BS degree!
on Aug 20, 2007
"Marcie's denial is disgusting and dishonest. One day she's lamenting over the difficulty she has controlling her symptoms, and the next she's getting irate because someone even mentioned them."

Being called on that would make me unplug my ethernet cord, for sure.
on Aug 20, 2007
Why? There shouldn't be a stigma attached to mental illness anymore than any other organic disease. There's nothing shameful about having cancer, or multiple sclerosis or anything else, is there? So why mental illness?

The only thing she should be ashamed of is getting bent out of shape and DENYING it when it's mentioned. That's shameful because it assumes that mental illness is something to be ashamed about!

Look here, I'm a full blown, unmedicated, rapid-cycling manic depressive. (fuck that bland, sensitive, and politically correct term 'bi-polar.' I'm a MANIAC when I'm up, and an unconsolable, morose depressive when down.)

Am I proud of it? No, not anymore than anyone would be 'proud' of having kidney stones or cataracts. It just is what is is, I'm afflicted with it, and so what?

Why me? Why NOT me?

Marcie's denial is disgusting and dishonest. One day she's lamenting over the difficulty she has controlling her symptoms, and the next she's getting irate because someone even mentioned them.

She ain't never gonna get better until she accepts what she is. Me, I can't afford to care anymore, but that doesn't mean I'll ignore her posts.


You got me all wrong LW. I wasn't talking about the mental illness. What I meant was you proved her wrong in a devastating way by pointing out the hypocrisy of her words.
on Aug 20, 2007
It's like me saying I never said that only to have someone dig up a (example) 10 year old article and point to exactly where I stated it. Talk about looking stupid.
on Aug 20, 2007
More like an article from yesterday.
on Aug 20, 2007

Nope, she isn't. Her degree automatically makes her a better parent than the rest of us.


LOL, now that's what I call comedy. You know what's really funny though? She probably thinks she a better parent than her own parents, but then we already know the end result of her parents parental nature.
on Aug 20, 2007
It's all good, Charles.


Except okra. Okra is most definitely, most decidedly NOT good!

But I digress...
on Aug 20, 2007
I love Okra. Nothing beats a good gumbo.
on Aug 20, 2007
Yeah, okra is good.

Yummy in gumbo, good pickled, and awesome fried.
on Aug 20, 2007
My wife likes the okra from Church Chicken. Why would anyone relate a church with fried chicken?
on Aug 20, 2007
Why would anyone relate a church with fried chicken?


maybe that is where they found the chicken
on Aug 20, 2007
Maybe it's the name of the guy who runs it. "Hi, I'm Mr. Church. Come get some chicken."
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