The journey from there to here
(Ok, not really, but...)
Published on February 1, 2006 By Gideon MacLeish In Religion

On someone else's blogs, the discussion turned to a disagreement with the views expressed by another blogger on her thread. It made me think of my views on the topic.

When I came to JU, I had initially wanted to blog primarily on religion. But I found that, not only are religion topics not highly read unless you're pretty controversial or it's good enough to get featured, but I take harsh criticism of my religious views pretty personally, so it's not a good "side" of me to be throwing to the lions.

Unlike politics, where I can give as well as I get, religion is about a VERY personal side of me, a side that, while I am willing to defend, I don't wish to broach unless asked specifically on a topic. Because, when you get to know the reasons behind my faith, you get to know a LOT about me, especially things I'd rather not divulge in a public forum.

Because of that, I rarely comment on religion threads (I'm pretty willing to bet that similar reasons from others leave them equally silent). I have my views, I don't really wish to debate them, and, moreover, I don't want to hurt the feelings of someone who may have an equally deep seated basis for their belief. But I DO read many of the articles, because I find the topic interesting.

The truth is, I disagree with about 99% of what I read on the religion threads. But that doesn't make it any less substantial or any less valid. So the omission of my comment does not detract from the quality of the article, but the addition of my comment certainly would.

I don't even want to drop in a "good read" comment, because if I do, I'm afraid that would become an invitation to the writer of the article to inquire WHY I simply left the "good read" comment. And I, for one, don't want to go there!


Comments
on Feb 01, 2006

Personally, I'd love to hear what you think, Gid. *s*

He thinks that I am 100% right, so he does not have to parrot me!

(JK Gid).

on Feb 01, 2006
Well now you've got me curious, ya brat! LOL

Way to avoid sharing your beliefs.. now we'll HOUND you. *grins*

Not really... and I understand your sentiments. Personally, I'd love to hear what you think, Gid. *s*
on Feb 01, 2006
Wow 99% huh? I haven't been around much to test this out but I'm willing to bet I'm with you.

I'm usually in the minority and that's where I like to be. Less crowded.

Religion is my favorite topic as well although I am not a religionist so to speak. While I haven't blogged much on this topic really or gone too deep I'm rethinking doing so.

If you wrote "good read" on my site (not knowing if we're on the same page)...I probably wouldn't ask why. I'd say "thanks" leave it at that.
on Feb 01, 2006
I wuz here.
on Feb 01, 2006
HAHAHAHA.

That is a good way to let people know you're reading them but don't have time to respond, don't agree or whatever.
on Feb 01, 2006

Gideon, what in insightful article you've written. I think knowing yourself as well as you do is a very good place to be. In particular your comment

but I take harsh criticism of my religious views pretty personally, so it's not a good "side" of me to be throwing to the lions.

is also an excellent piece of advice!

 

on Feb 01, 2006
To me, the best part of discussing religion (or spirituality) is that everyone involved in the conversation can disagree, without anyone being "wrong". The problems come when people in the discussion are trying to "prove" each other "wrong" or at least trying to make them defend their beliefs.

I don't feel the need to defend my beliefs to anyone. I also don't expect others to defend their beliefs to me. Now, I may question somebody else's take on a specific topic or point, but that's not telling them their wrong, it's just me admitting I don't understand.

Some of the best times I've had discussing religion was among people I disagreed with (and disagreed with me).... on the other hand, some of the most boring religious discussions I've been in were where everyone agreed.
on Feb 01, 2006
The problems come when people in the discussion are trying to "prove" each other "wrong" or at least trying to make them defend their beliefs.
I don't feel the need to defend my beliefs to anyone. I also don't expect others to defend their beliefs to me. Now, I may question somebody else's take on a specific topic or point, but that's not telling them their wrong, it's just me admitting I don't understand.

And that comes down to tolerance and mutual respect. I have no problems with others' religious beliefs, as long as they have no problem with mine.

I take harsh criticism of my religious views pretty personally, so it's not a good "side" of me to be throwing to the lions.

Here's hoping there won't be any condemning to hellfire or damnation (or, conversely, the supposition that you are a closed-minded religious zealot) coming at you if you choose to post your deeply-held religious views.
on Feb 01, 2006
I think religion is a passionate subject for most. If you don't want to put that part of you out there and feel like you have to defend it, I can sympathize. Maybe the reason you disagree so much with others on the subject is because you have had much different experiences that lead you to where you are now.

I find all the subjects you blog about interesting. I for one would never go to someone else's religious blog and criticize them. Everyone has the right to have a discussion on their own terms, about their chosen subject in their own blog.
on Feb 01, 2006
Because of that, I rarely comment on religion threads (I'm pretty willing to bet that similar reasons from others leave them equally silent). I have my views, I don't really wish to debate them, and, moreover, I don't want to hurt the feelings of someone who may have an equally deep seated basis for their belief. But I DO read many of the articles, because I find the topic interesting.


Point taken from the wet-behind-the-ears one.
on Feb 09, 2006
Defending beliefs.

You should only need to defend your beliefs to yourself, not to others. To thyn own self be true.

No matter what you believe, you will always have respect, simply because your part of the human race.