The journey from there to here

When I was 18 years old, I wasn't ready for life. Still, the foster care system couldn't hold me anymore, and I went out halfway across the country, neither financially nor emotionally prepared for the journey. Due to my lack of preparation, my car ran out of gas several hundred miles short of my destination of Colorado Springs, Colorado. I was able to hitchhike into town in fairly short order, and, after calling a few churches, was given directions to the local homeless shelter.

Through the next two weeks, I found out much about homelessness in America. There are, of course, a number who don't live in the shelter, but under bridges, culverts, and the like (while in Las Vegas, I often wondered how many unreported homeless people died in the flash flooding that follows the desert rains). These individuals are very solitary, and shouldn't be approached. Their solitary nature comes partly from mental illness, but partly from life experiences (One of the most horrific tales I heard about the homeless who live on the street was about wealthy kids who liked to "roll" bums for sport).

The first place I was directed was to the social services office to apply for food stamps. For the homeless person, food stamps are not for food (outside the occasional soda and chipd from the 7-11); that can be easily obtained at the soup kitchens and the homeless shelter. Food stamps are a marketable commodity, and there are always willing buyers. But when you have nothing, anything extra is welcome, and in the case of food stamps, they could often provide bus fare (back in those days, they still had paper food stamps; spend as little over the even dollar amount as you could and receive the remainder in change).  I discovered the soup kitchens, which are as full of passing hikers and students as they are of homeless people, and are one of the best places to people watch that you can find.

But the most important thing I discovered about homelessness is how hard it is to get out of the trap of homelessness. I would routinely get job interviews to be turned down because "we don't hire anyone from the shelter". When you're 18, without credit, and with a homeless background, a safe, secure apartment is all but impossible to find (this was before I discovered that living in the university district is the most affordable way for a poor young person to survive in America). Every day, holding your hand out for spare change looks better and better; I have often wondered how many homeless were "reduced" to such choices after trying everything else.

Sad to say, but my "way out" of homelessness was the fact that I committed a crime and was incarcerated. I had the rare fortune of encountering a wise judge who sentenced me to work release, which gave me an opportunity to save money and earn enough (as well as gain job references) to get an apartment once my time was served.

The reason I was able to obtain a job was because of a program geared for work release inmates through the county. The program focused on job skills, interviewing skills, and covered the key basics of obtaining and holding a job (showing up on time and sober, for instance). Without that program, and without the wisdom of a judge's decision, I might never have made it out of the trap of homelessness. I have often wondered how many others are where I once was.


Comments
on Jun 27, 2005

But I'd also say the overwhelming majority of them are there due to their own bad choices and/or drug addiction.

And I would agree with that completely. But I also have a problem when I see people mocking programs that teach life skills without realizing that there are some people who, through no fault of their own, NEED such programs.

Ironically, though, I would add that, for those there due to drug addiction, there are also those who are there due to inaccessibility of proper drugs (even some of the drug addicts qualify in this category; they tend to "self medicate"). As I deal with my increasing social phobia that makes having a good paying job increasingly difficult, and which could be handled (as it was in my younger years) by moderate, responsible use of marijuana, I have to wonder how many others like me there are. I may be completely unique, but I doubt it.

on Jun 27, 2005
Gid you're a good example of programs that help people and give them a second chance. You took your second chance and you're making a life for yourself and your family, away from the misfortune that happened a long time ago. Unfortunately not many who have made mistakes will take the path you have taken. They usually end up where they first started and most times it's becuase of drugs and other issues in their lives.

I'm sorry to say that some of these social workers just don't get it and never will. They become so complacent and so quick to hand out the generic solutions to everyone without first taking a "look" into the individual's problem and really finding a solution for each person. The correct solution. So like Whip dialogued above, the cycle continues and will ever be there!
on Jun 27, 2005
I've asked myself once what happened to foster kids when they turned 18, well i suppose i finally got my answer. It's crazy how they're condemned to a life of struggle so early. You were 'lucky' enough to get out of it, but how many are just stuck in dead-ends... The sad part is that there are people who'd like to help but no one really knows what to do.
on Jun 30, 2005

Island,

I hate to say it, but, if one TENTH of the people in this country who claim to be Christian would exercise their beliefs consistent with the TEACHINGS of Christ, it frankly wouldn't be a problem.

Putting that point aside, though, this is yet another reason we need to put a stop to CPS overreach. In too many circumstances, children are removed from families the social worker deems undesirable, and their constitutional rights violated, to be put into foster farms where they don't learn life skills and are loosed on society at the age of 18 without the skills necessary to function. Though their birth families may have been less than optimal, they are often better than what the state can produce; and by reunifying children with their parents more often, the system can concentrate on the kids who wouldn't make it without their help. It would be a better system for all of them.

In my case, if the first judge I faced as an adult had been a hard-as-nails, throw the book at them type of judge, I have little doubt my current residence would be a prison or grave somewhere in the US.