A recent blog article plus some particular events of the last several months have led me to evaluate what is truly important in a friendship. When everything's taken into consideration, honesty trumps them all.
Don't get me wrong; I don't hate someone who is deceitful. Frankly, I don't hate ANYONE as a person in general. But when their actions show them to be other than the person they presented, there's a credibility gap there that can't easily be fixed.
You see, lying to a "friend" is the ultimate "f$%^ you!" It tells the "friend" that you don't regard them as a friend, but rather are using them solely for what they have to offer you. Dishonesty isn't as simple as an outright lie; it's a lifestyle, and one that becomes self evident over time. It can be as simple as a pattern of lies but as complex as manipulation, control, or any number of other variables.
The good news is, a relationship CAN be remedied by the offender, IF the offender truly regrets what they did. The words "I'm sorry" when properly stated, can mean a lot.