The journey from there to here

A few years ago I was mulling a work commitment with the Christian Appalachian Project, a project that works to better the lives of families in the Appalachian region. Because I had the advantage of being online, I decided to ask a few I knew online who lived in that region what they thought of CAP.

The response was nearly unanimous. While they appreciated the intent, they disliked the way CAP was working to destroy the Appalachian culture and replace it with a culture more in line with the rest of America.

I had to stop and think, about how many of our society's values are based on cultural judgements. I have known far too many people who have been penalized because their culture and values differed from the societal "norm". They range from the Arizona woman whose children were removed because she chose to live in a Tipi, to the family I just mentioned whose children were removed because they lived without running water, to our own experiences with social workers who dislike our views on immunizations, homeschooling, and many other topics and feel that dislike to be grounds to enforce us to follow THEIR way of thinking.

Oh sure, we give lip service to "individualism" in this country. But even that "individualism" must fit into a label or else you strongly risk being ostracized. We have reached a point where being weird or eccentric is grounds for a call to CPS, or (in even more extreme cases) federal agencies to investigate the person who chooses to live in a different manner.

The irony is that this is reaching epidemic proportions as the perpetrators of these scams insist that we embrace "diversity". Their definition of "diversity" is limited to sexual practices, and they have no problem aiming their hands at conservatives and others who do not embrace this definition.

Culture is not law. Nor should it be seen to be. The lifestyle choices I make for my family are not the same as yours, nor would I expect them to be. But they ARE mine to make, and I WILL insist that you respect that right, even if you don't respect ME.


Comments
on May 06, 2005
Interesting observations. I lived in West Virginia for several years. I lived on a mountain top which was not accessable by automobile. One parked their vehicle at the bottom, in the "holler" and either walked up or, like myself rode up on horseback.

There were a number of families who also lived on "my mountain". There was no running water, electricity, or any of the modern "necessities" of life. I drew my water from a deep well and it was ice cold and sweet. But you know what? We were all happy and healthy up there. Those families were far happier and closer than most "modern" families.

We did eventually get power up there, which was something of a treat as we could then use refrigeration instead of cold cellars. Funny thing was, most folks still used the cold cellars for most things anyway.

Sometimes I miss living up there. They had a unique culture that I hope they are allowed to enjoy for many years to come.
on May 06, 2005
GREAT article gid, thought provoking and true.
on May 06, 2005
When did it become law?  When the government decided it knew best.
on May 06, 2005
Great article Gid!!

When did it become law? When We, the People started insisting that the government fix everything we don't like about our neighbors.
on May 06, 2005
I've lived in Appalachia all my life; Eastern Ketucky coal fields, and the North Carolia/Tennessee border mainly. I only live down here in the flats now because of what Gid is describing. There's not much culture left there now. In my experience, we've always been treated like reservation Indians by those who come in to help us.

The problem in Appalacia isn't culture, or comfort, it is ignorance. In the phrase "Poor, ignorant, coutry yokels", the only problem is the "ignorant" part, and that can be fixed through education. Then they can decide to change the rest as they like.

When I was a kid it was like they were trying to train us to be a kid on the Brady Bunch, instead of who we were. For every kid they "saved", there's 5 they ripped from loving families just because they felt the house the family had lived in happily for 20 years was suddenly not up to snuff. Oddly, it had served them well up until then.

These hateful people go to the craft stores, watch "nostaligic" shows, wax rhapsodic about "simpler times" and collect "folk art" made by the people whose culture they are destroying. I, frankly, hate them.
on May 06, 2005
I know how you feel Baker. My family is mostly from the southwest corner of Virginia, West Virginia, and Kentucky and the majority of them still live there. It is a culture of it's own, but there is nothing "ignorant" about them. The vast majority are college educated and remain in the mountain country by choice.

Those who aren't college education are at least High School graduates who simply opted to go to work instead of college, many after service in the military which is something of a family expectation.

More than once outside meddlers have interfered with their chosen way of life, attempting to force changes on them they simply didn't want. My grandfather lived in the family home he had raised all of his 18 children in, without benefit of many modern ammenities. It wasn't that he couldn't afford them, he owned several good businesses and was one of the weathiest people in the county. But some of these meddlers were persistant in their wanting to "improve" his living conditions. He finally allowed them to make the "improvements" at government expense just to make them go away.

Stupid, really.
on May 06, 2005
MasonM: I hear ya.

Me and a friend used to hunt together, and sometimes we did nature photography. I had just gotten a new Nikon and we decided we'd hike in to Cades Cove in the middle of the night and be there at daybreak before the tourists got there and ran off all the deer.

We came out about noon to get something to eat, and granted, we were looking rough. We were both wearing overalls, we were unshaven, a bit dirty. We're sitting there eating and my friend leans over and asks me what the lady behind us is staring at.

I turn and look and she is GLARING at us. About five minutes later she said, purposely loud enough for us to hear "You'd think people would bother to clean up before they ate in a public place." She literally had the hostess move them to another table.

Anyway, they left shortly after, got back in their RV and no doubt went to Dollywood to enjoy the culture they had just denegrated.

Imagine that for 30 years your culture has been demeaned, people have made fun of you when you venture out, every effort has been made to assimilate you into whitebread America...

Then, when you go back "up home" for visits, all you find is urban, whitebread America buying summer homes there, trying their best to capture the lifestyle whitebread America insisted was "backwards" and crushed. Oh, and while they are there, they denegrate the culture they are there to enjoy.

I, personally, hope they never find a moment's peace. Can you guess who I root for in Deliverance?
on May 06, 2005
Oh, and while they are there, they denegrate the culture they are there to enjoy.


Yeah, that's the worst part of it. I guess to them it's the same as going to the zoo to tease the monkeys.
on May 07, 2005

I know how you feel Baker. My family is mostly from the southwest corner of Virginia, West Virginia, and Kentucky and the majority of them still live there. It is a culture of it's own, but there is nothing "ignorant" about them. The vast majority are college educated and remain in the mountain country by choice.

Damn!  I knew you were the finest kind!  I love that area.  The nicest people I have ever met live there, and you just gave me a blog to thank them.  An incident back in the 90s!

You sir, are a true gentleman!  The best this nation has to offer!

on May 07, 2005
You sir, are a true gentleman! The best this nation has to offer!


I agree Guy, they are some of the best folks around. And thank you for the flowers, but I'm just another poor ole country boy trying to do the best the can.