The journey from there to here

One of the most telling things about the misguided nature of CPS and its investigators and their attacks on families is found in the "stock" questions they ask children in the course of their investigation. They will ask children if they are afraid of anyone. The question will, of course, vary, as there is the very distinct possibility that little Johnny acted up on the way to the interview and knows that discipline will await him once he returns home.

A child's indication of fear is not necessarily an indication of abuse. Although a child observed over time who is consistently fearful of his/her parents may be an abused child, such a judgement cannot be made through casual observation. If my fifteen year old child swipes the family car, gets in a high speed chase with the police and wrecks the car, they damn well better be afraid of the consequences. If they're not, I haven't done my job as a parent.

The presence of fear is often an indicator solely of the presence of authority. If a police car pulls up behind you and flashes the lights, your heart will race, and you will have a fearful reaction. That's natural, even if you've done nothing wrong, and even though, in all likelihood the stop is likely to result in little more than the issuance of a piece of paper unless you KNOW you've done something wrong, or your face happens to resemble a police sketch of a serious crime suspect. While certain reactions can indicate the illegitimate use of authority, other signs of abuse are often present to accompany the declaration of fear.

Too many times, I have seen parents whose children were ruined by the system, who, even though their parents were found to be innocent, come home asserting all the authority by telling their parents, "you can't spank me or I'll call the cops and you'll go to jail", or similar threats against legitimate parental authority. The teenage years are hard enough for a parent to handle without being emasculated by a system that effectively revokes all parental authority by giving children an automatic appeal of every decision. Is this weekend's curfew too early? Call the social worker! Need a raise in your allowance? Call the social worker! Don't want to eat your broccoli? Call the social worker! While my parents genuinely needed help in their parenting skills, they were not helped by the fact that we, as children, could veto every decision they made with the threat to call the social worker. If they took the social worker's card away from us or denied us phone privileges to make the call, that was a BIG TIME no-no!

The increased oversight that government has (illegally) given CPS has effectively ensured that millions of children will age out without real, effective parental guidance. Children do not have the capacity to make a number of decisions for themselves, and should not be given the authority to do so. And no social worker, no matter how well meaning, can make a sound decision on the quality of parenting based on the limited criteria they have at their disposal. So many factors, including the culture and religion of the parents, the needs and disabilities of the parents and/or the child, rural or urban settings, economic background, and others come into play that it is literally impossible for someone not schooled in all of these areas to truly know and judge whether or not a parent is a "good parent" to any meaningful degree. And that is why the state should not even try. Serious cases of abuse or neglect can be identified and should be dealt with with the full force of the law. But those cases are an infinitessimally small number of the cases that CPS actually deals with, and should be handled instead, by law enforcement, who are actually trained in proper evidence gathering techniques.


Comments
on Jun 08, 2006
The fact that you even have to propose such a point is heinous. If you took a story of abusive CPS tactics and changed it so that it appeared to be happening in China, people would rant to the heavens about what an awful place it is. Too few people here have the intestinal fortitude to take them to task for their behavior here, though.

There's no reason to have CPS in any role other than placement of children who have been taken away through due process. No one is willing to undertake dismantling them because they are a socialist sacred cow. They would operate invisibly if it weren't for people like you. Kudos.

on Jun 08, 2006
I think fear is HEALTHY.

I fear if I play with fire I will get burned.

I also fear God. He can smite me with no more than a thought....I fear angering him. But there is also awe and reverence bound in with it.

I want my kids to fear me just enough it keeps their steps true and on track.

People often associate fear with physical violence....but my oldest son will be the first to tell his friends he's afraid of me because I can take away his video games.
on Jun 08, 2006
You're preaching to the choir here. I agree with you 100%.
on Jun 08, 2006
I think fear is HEALTHY.

I fear if I play with fire I will get burned.

I also fear God. He can smite me with no more than a thought....I fear angering him. But there is also awe and reverence bound in with it.

I want my kids to fear me just enough it keeps their steps true and on track.

People often associate fear with physical violence....but my oldest son will be the first to tell his friends he's afraid of me because I can take away his video games.


What cracked me up was my (then) five year old when CPS interviewed her. The investigator asked you "is there anyone you're afraid of?" and my five year old whispered "yes!". The investigator got her pen at the ready and pounced: "Who is it?" My child answered, "CPS, because we didn't do anything wrong".

Using their own logic, I should have had a restraining order against CPS for instilling fear in my children.

Out of the mouths of babes, right?
on Jun 08, 2006
I have always felt the decline of america was started when the government took away parental rights, I had my youngest dare me to spank her when I caught her lieing and cheating in school, I almost fell off the chair, needles to say I gave her what she asked for, an empty bedroom with a matress some sheets and a lamp to read by, she could not use the phone, friends became a thing of the past, radio, television gone gone gone.I told her get use to this because till she rasised her grades and stopped lieing this was her life. quickly she found out how well she could do in school when she applied herself, she also learned no matter what she did, the truth would stop the world from ending.
on Jun 08, 2006

I remember your story of the interview.  Yes, and the best part was that your 5 year old was being completely honest!

Great article.

on Jun 08, 2006

CPS, because we didn't do anything wrong

HAHAHAHA

That is too funny!