The journey from there to here
Published on March 2, 2006 By Gideon MacLeish In Misc

Some months ago, Tex wrote a blog entitled "Stepping Away from God" where she made some statements about her spiritual outlook at the time. I'm not stepping away from God, or anywhere near it, but I AM stepping away from church.

While I've been a committed Christian for 17 years, I have been in church my entire life. I have never doubted the reality of God, or of Jesus Christ, and, in fact, have very strong personal reasons for knowing that both are real.

But as strong as my conviction is as a Christian, I haven't seen that faith lived out in the vast majority of churches that claim the name of Christ. While we're told "God is love" from the pulpit, we sit among backstabbing, sniping, hatemongers whose ambition is to destroy, not to build harmonious relationships, and who so often believe that salvation depends on the name of the sign out in front of the church or a number of petty doctrinal practices. We watch as preference is given based on the size of contributions in the offering plate, despite the fact that we are specifically instructed in scripture NOT to do that, and we judge a person by the cut of his clothes or the length of his hair. In my life, I have not found one single church that is wholly innocent of this charge, though some are a little less judgemental than others.

There was a time when I thought I could make a difference and be a reformer, but you simply cannot reform a church that doesn't want to be reformed. And it makes little to no sense for me to do as so many do and go off and "start my own franchise". While my motives may be pure, it stands to reason that if I am remotely successful, my church would quickly become just another wedge to divide a body already greatly broken with people's own pride and self destructive tendencies. I'm not saying this to be hypocritical; I'm probably as bad about it as anyone.

Right now, I'm sick and tired of being torn apart by all of the competing allegiances in my life. The Baptists hate the Church of Christ. The Church of Christ hates the Baptists. Everyone hates the Catholics and the Mormons. The list goes on. God is not a God of hate, and hate has no place in the life of a faithful Christian. And so I won't go to a church where hatred is fostered or encouraged.

We're told that where two or three are gathered in Christ's name, He is there in the midst of them. My faith is strong enough to survive my worship outside of a church building, and I know it doesn't make me any less a Christian. But it does break my heart to know that many of the people in those church buildings love God every bit as much as I do, but somehow have lost sight of what's truly important. I know I have lost sight as well, that's why I'm coming to the conclusion that stepping away from the church might not be such a bad idea.


Comments
on Mar 02, 2006
It is unfortunate, but not rare.  Many times the pews in church are filled with people who talk the talk, but fail to walk the walk.  I see it even in the Catholic Churches.  I understand your decision.
on Mar 02, 2006

Gid, churches are made up of people, imperfect people.  You only notice their imperfection when you take your eyes off God though.

I stopped looking for a church to be perfect a long time ago.  I will never find it.  And I wouldn't know what it looked like if there was such a thing.

I want to tell you something.

I was a "get up every morning at 5am to spend time with God for an hour of Bible study and prayer" kinda gal for many years.  I attended church, taught Sunday school, volunteered for international ministries, and learned that indeed churches are made up people who are not perfect.

To enjoy and honor God during the assembly I stopped focusing on THEIR faults and started focusing on mine.  Which was.....~drum roll~ finding fault and lack of love in others.  (Which translates PRIDE.)  God showed me to stop using my eyes to see them and start using His.

So I was happy in my church family. 

Then I moved to Alaska for several years with no church family AT ALL.  The only "church" available wasn't Biblical, and I couldn't listen to the garbage and not speak out.

You are walking away, I was forced away, but in the end I think its the same thing.  Out of fellowship.  Yes, I had Bible Study with a few for awhile, but you know what?  It slacked off and then dripped to never.  All the sudden I wasn't "hearing" from God as well as I used too.  (You know how you can study a scripture during the week, talk it over with God, ask Him to please reveal what it means in your life, then you go to Church on Sunday and the Preacher's message is on that exact scripture or subject?)

I got that kind of thing every single week.  Not to mention the days I'd ask God about something and then head out to a Christian fellowship (usually church sponsored) and someone would "happen" to bring up their personal experience with that scripture/situation without being prompted.  Or someone would bring a family member visiting from out of town, whatever, but God was there speaking through them.

Here is what I lost when I was forced from that imperfect fellowship so many Christians take for granted.

I lost the ability to hear from God as often and as loud.  I grew so accustomed to it, I didn't realize how much and how loud until it was GONE.  Leaving in its place a sense of utter despair and abandonment.

I lost the ability to empathize with my brothers and sisters in Christ.  The longer I was away the more sure of my belief I came...no one ever questioned it or made me search.

The world view that I could see stuck out like a sore thumb before, suddenly became less obvious, until finally it became part of my view.  And if I were put on trial for being a Christian, there wouldn't be enough evidence to convict.

And I do believe there is something in corporate worship and prayer.  Being in a room full of people who for the most part (I know there is chaff but we can not judge the heart) believe and praise the same God...it is powerful.

I lost my peace.  Even though there was nothing I could do about forsaking the assembly (at least in my mind).  That God sized hole He filled for so long, was once again GAPING and sucking the life out of everyone around me.  Even knowing there was nothing or anyone who could fill it, I tried.

Besides our salvation, I believe God gave us fellowship as His next best gift.  I know because I have lived with God WITH it and with God WITHOUT it.

I can't aptly articulate why I believe you should reconsider.  All I can say is, I went into it with my eyes wide open, believing I could live without that imperfect fellowship of fakers....and today I can tell you it was the biggest lie I ever let myself believe.

I suffered, and more than I will ever be able to write here.

I hope you pray about it Gid....and ask for God's guidance.  I can't believe he'd ever tell you to walk away.....but that is between you and God.

It is easy to point out people's faults (speaking from years of experience here).  Hard to love them anyway.

Peace. 

on Mar 03, 2006

I stopped looking for a church to be perfect a long time ago. I will never find it. And I wouldn't know what it looked like if there was such a thing.

I'm not asking for ANY church to be perfect. I AM asking the church not to be led by blatant hypocrites. The call reporting us to CPS was made essentially because of a religious difference from the church I don't attend, good citizens within the community have been accused of felonies because they dared stand up to the individuals in control, and the church we do attend is asking me to take a position with them on an area of doctrine with which I wholly disagree. I can't, and I won't do that. I tried attending the church realizing they weren't perfect and not making an issue of this difference, but it's pretty clear that's not allowed. And the other church is out. I simply won't deal with having to answer a CPS call because my five year old wore mismatching clothes to church or we forgot to scrub the face of one of the younger children when we were dashing off to church.

I try to teach my children to act like grownups, and when I see the example being set by these "grownups", it's a shame. I'm inclined to tell my kids to act more like kids. Even when they are petty, they are at least, honest about it.

I've been a Christian for MANY years, Tova, and I have been faithful, and ALWAYS tried to be diplomatic. I have tolerated other people's faults and imperfections, only to find myself and my family the subject of various attempts to manipulate our beliefs and lifestyle in ways that have absolutely nothing to do with Christian doctrine. If I were to get specific, I could write a book.

I'm tired of it all. My faith is a simple, abiding faith in Jesus Christ. I am tired of churches insisting that the sign out front is more important than the condition of the heart of the Christian. I am tired of infighting, battles, name calling, manipulation, and every other sort of ulterior motive. My first instinct would be to start a church of my own (I am actually an ordained minister....little known fact #557), but I realize that, if it wasn't everything I oppose in the other churches when I start it, it soon would be, so it's better just to privately worship with my family and possibly a few close friends who may wish to share in worship.

I'm not encouraging anyone else to do the same. If you're happy with the church you attend, go and worship. But as for me and my house...well, we're done with the whole game playing. At least for the moment. Maybe a little "separation" will do us all some good.

on Mar 03, 2006

I'll just put it this way, Tova. I've not known until recently what it meant to be truly HATED...not just the subject of disagreements, but of actual pure, hatred. And that hatred has come EXCLUSIVELY from "Christians". When Christians engage in hatred, well, they're not following their own bibles.

Imperfection is one thing. When a church is the very antithesis of what it teaches, that is another. And it's something I won't support or tolerate.

on Mar 03, 2006

Sorry Gid, I didn't get to see this yesterday...and commented today on your other article before reading this.

So we were crossed a little in communication.

I agree if your church is teaching unGodly things it is not good to be there.

You are really stuck between a rock and a hard place.  I'm sorry this is happening to you Gid.

Not all churches are like the ones you describe.  There is nothing to say if you started a church it would ever degenerate into that.  Anyway, just a thought.

I'll keep you in my prayers.

t

on Mar 03, 2006
Yes, I feel the same as Tova. It sounds to me that God is calling you out for something he has in store for you. I've seen this before in my life as well as the lives of others.

But Christ loves the church and instituted it because he knew we needed this to stay together in fellowship. Like a log on the fire, if it rolls away from the other logs, it will soon go out. The same with us. The world is a cold, lonely place for a Christian. But we are to be in it and if not for the church to recharge once a week (at least) I don't know what I'd do....probably go crazy. A healthy well balanced church is becoming increasingly hard to find.

Maybe God is calling you into the ministry. We are so in need of Godly men that are willing to lead God's people.

Keep your eyes open....better yet....keep the son in your eyes. I think God has a plan going on here....