Apologies? I Think NOT

Published on June 2, 2006 By Gideon MacLeish In Personal Relationships

Unfortunately, due to the blacklisting, I'm forced to reply to a question asked of me through my own blog. I will do so.

Here is the text of the question:

You are having a heated argument with an acquaintance, a disagreement of sorts, suddenly party A says "hey you hurt my feelings" Party B' Says no I did not!

I always thought it was up to the party that had his feelings hurt to decide if they were hurt or not.

How can anyone say "I did not hurt your feelings" when Party A made it very clear indeed they were hurt.

Who's decision is it to decide about hurt feelings? The one that claims there feelings were hurt or insulted or the other party in this case party B who is NOT INSIDE Party A head, who does not feel what Party A felt?

When someone tells me I hurt them I might not understand why they are hurt or insulted, but then again I am not in that persons head and I do not have a clue how that person feels except for what they tell me. I apologize even if I do not understand what's the big deal, It must have been a big deal or else why would Party A say he was hurt or insulted?

If asked to apologize you can do one of two things, apologize if you think the other person is worth keeping around, or not apologize even knowing you might have this person annoyed enough to kick you to the curb. It all seems very black and white to me. What say you folks?

First of all, in my estimation, talk is cheap. An apology is nothing more than asking permission to be an asshat. It's cheap and degrading.

Secondly, I do not apologize if I do not mean it. Ever.

Third, I do not respond to DEMANDS for an apology.

You demand an apology, then sit on your throne decrying me because I don't give it to you, yet you do not consider, for a second, that the statements you made are, to me, as offensive, or more so, than anything I could have said to you. Furthermore, when someone else states the EXACT SAME THING I SAID, in different words, you thank them for changing your viewpoint, while you throw me onto your blacklist.

I could go over the reasons why your comments offended me, but I have already done so. No need to rehash. In fact, this article wouldn't exist if it weren't for the fact I am answering a question directly. I am done with it.

You either accept me as I am, or you don't. Either way, I'm cool with it. I will certainly miss your presence, but an acquaintance based on lies is less valuable than no acquaintance at all. I am who I am, you are who you are, and apparently YOU (not I) have deemed those two personalities incompatible.

I wish you the best of luck in life.

Comments (Page 2)

Gideon MacLeish

on Jun 03, 2006

that was a cheap shot gid, I expect better from you.

Agreed. I WILL apologize for that statement, it was definitely out of place.

I am sorry about the statement I made about the Constitution, but you should have known That is not even close to how I feel about the constitution. I was having a fear filled day and wrote an article that if I was thinking clearly I would never have written.

That is why I commented questioning whether you were serious. It WAS out of character, and as I read the comments, I seriously thought you were deliberately being satirical for a reason. If it had come from certain nameless members of the JU community, my reaction, while still intense, would not have been nearly as much so. As LW and others said, you only get truly pissed at the people you care about on some level.

I hope you understand why this particular issue is a hot button for me. I have an inbox full of stories from families affected by CPS (most of which I must keep confidential), and am all too powerless to help in so many of those cases. Almost every one of those involves routine violations of Constitutional rights. I am becoming genuinely concerned that within 15-20 years our Constitution may be completely nullified by political correctness, and take attacks on it very seriously.

Moderateman

on Jun 03, 2006

Reply By: Gideon MacLeishPosted: Saturday, June 03, 2006that was a cheap shot gid, I expect better from you.Agreed. I WILL apologize for that statement, it was definitely out of place.

thank you.

I hope you understand why this particular issue is a hot button for me. I have an inbox full of stories from families affected by CPS (most of which I must keep confidential), and am all too powerless to help in so many of those cases. Almost every one of those involves routine violations of Constitutional rights. I am becoming genuinely concerned that within 15-20 years our Constitution may be completely nullified by political correctness, and take attacks on it very seriously

I believe the same thing which is why I have written so many articles with the general theme of "POLITICAL CORRECTNESS" is destroying our country

Welcome Guest! Please take the time to register with us.
There are many great features available to you once you register, including:

Richer content, access to many features that are disabled for guests like commenting on the forums.
Access to a great community, with a massive database of many, many areas of interest.
Access to contests & subscription offers like exclusive emails.
It's simple, and FREE!